Don’t Be a Lurker

Be more than a read-only participant.

Please join me in this conversation I often have with myself. Yes, I talk to myself because there are some things I’m the only one who truly understands.

Being away from the U.S. for 20 years, I immersed myself in the cultures of wherever I was living at the time. You know the saying, “When in Rome…” Well, during those two decades, America changed in so many ways. Not just vocabulary but in culture, too.

When I returned, I felt like I was learning English all over again.

Words like intentional or offer were no longer just adjectives or verbs. They had become identities. Brands. Movements. They represented new levels in an individual’s evolution. Those words and many others, sent me back to the drawing board. I was researching, Googling, even checking the Urban Dictionary in some cases.

But there was one word that unsettled me:

Lurker.

It has a slightly creepy flavor, doesn’t it? So I looked it up, because I kept hearing it in conversations about social media.

A lurker is someone who follows social media or joins online communities but doesn’t actively engage. They don’t click “like.” They never comment, share, or reply. They are read-only participants.

No interaction. No engagement.

Now listen, social media can feel like a battlefield of opinions, cultures, and clashing ideas. It can also be a breeding ground for keyboard bullies. I deeply understand the hesitation. These internet streets… are not for the faint of heart.

But the word lurker doesn’t just apply online.

The trend that concerns me most is among women 55+.

I know you see me. And others like me. You don’t have to like or comment. That’s your choice.

But I’m pleading with you… don’t be a lurker in your own life.

Take action.
Make a move.
Participate in the evolution of your life.

It doesn’t have to be major. And you’re not required to announce it to anyone. But you know when you’re denying yourself what your heart yearns for.

Click “like” on your dreams.
Comment on your hopes.
Share that motivational reel to your personal email so you can revisit it when you start losing focus.

And reply… yes, reply.

Have a full-blown conversation with yourself. Or with God. Spirit. Allah. Creator. Or your best friend. Get what’s resting on your heart out into the universe.

So go ahead, keep being a lurker on social media if you want to.

But don’t do it in real life.

You deserve so much more, 55+ ladies.

Stop lurking on the sidelines of your own life.

Today’s a new day.

Let’s live it.

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If this stirred something in you, reply and tell me one area where you refuse to lurk any longer.